#LiveForward The Deeper Message of FBI Profiler Novel VIOLATED
“Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.”
We all have things that we regret. Beyond that, we all have pains and hurts that are the result of other people’s choices. Then there are some things that are beyond all of our control. And any of one these situations can have us longing for the past and the way things used to be. If we’re not aware of it, we can become completely obsessed with the past to the point that we neglect the now. As a result, not only do those in our lives suffer but so do we. We’re robbing ourselves of our power to make the choices now for future results and we’re foregoing opportunities in which we can make more memories with the ones we love.
But maybe it’s none of the scenarios above that have you trapped in a state of inactivity and forward movement. It could be a past “failure” that has us paralyzed or holding back from doing something else we love. I mark failure in quotations because everything in life—even those times we may view as a failure—are an opportunity for us to grow. If we look at every decision and result in the manner of choice A and choice B, instead of right and wrong, we’ll already be ahead of the game. We are then living in the present and going with the flow of life.
When we live forward, we latch onto opportunities that come our way—heck, we even create some of them—we open ourselves up to those around us and live our lives to the fullest potential. We will have less stress and anxiety than those who are constantly weighed down by the past because we’ll have let go and surrendered.
What if you’ve lost a loved one? Sadly, we cannot bring them back no matter how much we will it through the what-ifs and if-onlys. We honor ourselves when we allow ourselves the time to grieve—no matter how long that takes. However, you will find that as we start to look on those memories with sincere gratitude, and as one heals, something shifts and before you know it you’ll be living forward again.
This really is the underlying message of my latest release Violated. When FBI Agent Paige Dawson buries her friend, she obsesses over how a past assault had ruined her friend’s life. Paige then allows herself to become so fixated with the man who hurt her friend that she risks her career. And if that’s not enough, the rapist was murdered and Paige is the number one suspect. It leads me to say: Sometimes the past should stay there…